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[rabbit]

Eat, sleep, and stop throwing up?  Go abstinent for a while.

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[Warrior]

Don't talk to her for a few days.
Girls need time to think, she'll eventually recontact you or if not you can do it after a day or two.

Keep in mind that not talking to her is not the same as ignoring, you can reply to her if she engages in conversation with you. It's crucial that you let the ball be in her court for those first 48-72 hours of the breakup.

The logical step during this time is to do a self evaluation: What happened to cause the break up? What lengths are you willing to go for her? What kind of chance do you think you have?

Using this information, you should be ready to talk to her once the first few days are up and she's calmer.
You can split up the task into multiple sections:

For instance, girls enjoy reminiscing on greater times so you can do your best to bring up old memories. Be sure not to sound too sappy, strive to remain as confident as ever.

To elaborate on this, pity will get you nowhere. If you show her you're hurt, the ball will be in her court for longer than you're going to want. You eventually want to control the conversations, and how they end. The best thing to do with a girl is slowly ramp up the conversation and then finish it with one hard hitting question for her to sit on for that night.

Do this for a few days, then talk to me.

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[CrAz3D]

Definitely try not to initiate talking to her, let her talk to you.

Women are senseless, they do things and say things that all contradict themselves. 

Also, stay as busy as you possibly can, preferably with real friends (not online)

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[Newby]

Also, stay as busy as you possibly can, preferably with real friends (not online)

Mix the two. Individually there's still vacant time periods where your mind will most likely wander to a sad lonely place.

[CrAz3D]

Well, yeah ... when not with friends you still need to do SOMETHING.

[Krazed]

Get a hobby. I'm not gonna sit here and tell you she'll come running back, she *probably* will, but even if she doesn't it's not the end of the world. I've been through a lot of relationships (ask any of the old-school x86  ), maybe it was time for a break or a change. If she broke up with you, then it's time for you to do some moving on. If she comes back, then I still wouldn't recommend jumping right back into the relationship. If she did it once, she'll do it again.

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[Chavo]

Plotting 'revenge' is a great way to establish a healthy relationship! 

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[Chavo]

re·venge
-verb
1.   to exact punishment or expiation for a wrong on behalf of, esp. in a resentful or vindictive spirit: He revenged his murdered brother.
–noun
7.   an opportunity to retaliate or gain satisfaction.

Sounds like revenge to me bud.

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[ZeroX]

Get World of Warcraft. Saves lifes.

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World of Warcrack**

[Chavo]

Er, Is it wrong to show her, my feelings by how I feel? I wouldn't consider that revenge.

You aren't showing her your feelings.  Communicating your feelings via mature conversation would be healthy, attempting to get someone else to experience the same feelings you feel is an attempt at reciprocation.  Reciprocation of a negative feeling/action/etc is revenge.

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[Newby]

Let her come to you.

[Ender]

If she comes back to you, and you're an ass to her, then you'll miss out on the makeup sex. 

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[Explicit]

To be honest, I think you're in a state of infatuation. When you're in a relationship, the idea isn't to make the other person your entire life, but rather, a part of it.

Use this time to re-evaluate the circumstances. I've seen plenty of couples who claimed to be madly in love with each other, but after so-and-so amount of time, a change of heart took place. I don't see this scenario as being anything different.

Just my 2-cents, but I do wish the best for you.

[Krazed]

Explicit is right. And, from the sounds of it, theres a real good chance it might not work. Theres many, many girls in this world mang.

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[rabbit]

I'm not an ass to her... and I'll never be... I don't want just sex from her... I want her heart...

Hearts go good with a little bit of cinnamon.

[Sidoh]

I'm not an ass to her... and I'll never be... I don't want just sex from her... I want her heart...

You want to have sex with her heart?  Weird.

[Ender]

I'm trying to think of an argument for how it's possible to have uncountably many relationships. The problem is, we haven't yet defined a relationship. We cannot define relationships to be disjoint intervals of time, because there exists no uncountable set of pairwise disjoint real regions. (The proof of this is very cool!)

[Hitmen]

I'm trying to think of an argument for how it's possible to have uncountably many relationships. The problem is, we haven't yet defined a relationship. We cannot define relationships to be disjoint intervals of time, because there exists no uncountable set of pairwise disjoint real regions. (The proof of this is very cool!)

Do you spend a lot of time writing posts so that most people don't understand them?

[Sidoh]

Do you spend a lot of time writing posts so that most people don't understand them?

That's just how mathematicians roll.

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[iago]

....and she cracked.... she's bawling her eyes out, telling me a bunch of stuff.... I'm keeping it cool, but still affectionate.... I'll edit with a outcome sometime soon....

That was 12 hours ago.. do you think she killed him?

[rabbit]

I think it's more likely that she's still on the torture stage.

[CrAz3D]

....and she cracked.... she's bawling her eyes out, telling me a bunch of stuff.... I'm keeping it cool, but still affectionate.... I'll edit with a outcome sometime soon....

That was 12 hours ago.. do you think she killed him?

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/local/crime/orl-bk-msuicide021608,0,2291607.story

?

[Blaze]

....and she cracked.... she's bawling her eyes out, telling me a bunch of stuff.... I'm keeping it cool, but still affectionate.... I'll edit with a outcome sometime soon....

That was 12 hours ago.. do you think she killed him?

http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/local/crime/orl-bk-msuicide021608,0,2291607.story

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Creepy, but that's not his name.   

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Re-read my previous post.

[CrAz3D]

ugh.. sorry i've been at robotics club since 9:30ish AM.. I just got back...

Uh, and update.... We talked this morning (i called her, because she signed off last night sending me a lot *a lot* of crying faces.. and this time it wasn't her saying "I'm sorry dale... I can't do this"... It was more like " im so confused" the I need you attitude) So mm, I called her, and she woke up fairly fast, I think she probably just got to sleep... (this was at 9ish a.m) and she was still kind of crying and sniffling and more gentle, then pushy if you know what I mean... So that's practically the whole update.... I think she realizes, that I *kind* of can live without her... and it hurst her soo much, and I think she can't live without me... and to be honest... I don't think I can live without her... I just... I fake it.


EDIT: Sorry if my splurr was unclear, or not to the point, I'm wicked tired...

EDIT 2: She just called me, after I text her, and she seems fine... So fuck? I'm confused.

You can live without her, it's just gonna be hard for a long time.

Also, she'll always be confusing.  My ex, who I still like and I'm quite sure she likes likes me but doesnt want to date now that she's back from Thailand, has had a dude hitting on her (around me, but she keeps inviting me places , not fun).  She doesnt really give this guy the "go away" cold shoulder ... sometimes seems flirty back, and he's paid for her drinks a couple of times (he's 18, she's 21, weird).  But she'll text me saying "He is hitting on me.  I'm not ok with that" or last night driving me home she said "That was like slow torture" (the hour drive back from El Paso with the dude, me, another friend, and her).
Weird?  Yes.  Confusing?  Hell yes.  Do I still really friggin' like this chick?  Yes .

[Explicit]

ugh.. sorry i've been at robotics club since 9:30ish AM.. I just got back...

Uh, and update.... We talked this morning (i called her, because she signed off last night sending me a lot *a lot* of crying faces.. and this time it wasn't her saying "I'm sorry dale... I can't do this"... It was more like " im so confused" the I need you attitude) So mm, I called her, and she woke up fairly fast, I think she probably just got to sleep... (this was at 9ish a.m) and she was still kind of crying and sniffling and more gentle, then pushy if you know what I mean... So that's practically the whole update.... I think she realizes, that I *kind* of can live without her... and it hurst her soo much, and I think she can't live without me... and to be honest... I don't think I can live without her... I just... I fake it.


EDIT: Sorry if my splurr was unclear, or not to the point, I'm wicked tired...

EDIT 2: She just called me, after I text her, and she seems fine... So fuck? I'm confused.

You can live without her, it's just gonna be hard for a long time.

Also, she'll always be confusing.  My ex, who I still like and I'm quite sure she likes likes me but doesnt want to date now that she's back from Thailand, has had a dude hitting on her (around me, but she keeps inviting me places , not fun).  She doesnt really give this guy the "go away" cold shoulder ... sometimes seems flirty back, and he's paid for her drinks a couple of times (he's 18, she's 21, weird).  But she'll text me saying "He is hitting on me.  I'm not ok with that" or last night driving me home she said "That was like slow torture" (the hour drive back from El Paso with the dude, me, another friend, and her).
Weird?  Yes.  Confusing?  Hell yes.  Do I still really friggin' like this chick?  Yes .

Not all girls are confusing. It could be that you're just  attracted to the wrong pool of women.

[Newby]

...i called her...So mm, I called her...,

Mistake #1.

[CrAz3D]

ugh.. sorry i've been at robotics club since 9:30ish AM.. I just got back...

Uh, and update.... We talked this morning (i called her, because she signed off last night sending me a lot *a lot* of crying faces.. and this time it wasn't her saying "I'm sorry dale... I can't do this"... It was more like " im so confused" the I need you attitude) So mm, I called her, and she woke up fairly fast, I think she probably just got to sleep... (this was at 9ish a.m) and she was still kind of crying and sniffling and more gentle, then pushy if you know what I mean... So that's practically the whole update.... I think she realizes, that I *kind* of can live without her... and it hurst her soo much, and I think she can't live without me... and to be honest... I don't think I can live without her... I just... I fake it.


EDIT: Sorry if my splurr was unclear, or not to the point, I'm wicked tired...

EDIT 2: She just called me, after I text her, and she seems fine... So fuck? I'm confused.

You can live without her, it's just gonna be hard for a long time.

Also, she'll always be confusing.  My ex, who I still like and I'm quite sure she likes likes me but doesnt want to date now that she's back from Thailand, has had a dude hitting on her (around me, but she keeps inviting me places , not fun).  She doesnt really give this guy the "go away" cold shoulder ... sometimes seems flirty back, and he's paid for her drinks a couple of times (he's 18, she's 21, weird).  But she'll text me saying "He is hitting on me.  I'm not ok with that" or last night driving me home she said "That was like slow torture" (the hour drive back from El Paso with the dude, me, another friend, and her).
Weird?  Yes.  Confusing?  Hell yes.  Do I still really friggin' like this chick?  Yes .

Not all girls are confusing. It could be that you're just  attracted to the wrong pool of women.

You show me a woman that isn't confusing and I'll show you that "she" is actually a dude. 

[Krazed]

...i called her...So mm, I called her...,

Mistake #1.

Pretty much.

[Explicit]

Not all girls are confusing. It could be that you're just  attracted to the wrong pool of women.

You show me a woman that isn't confusing and I'll show you that "she" is actually a dude. 

I don't need to show you anything. I've dated plenty of women who don't fit snugly into your schema, and from what I can see, you're making gross generalizations to include the female gender as a whole.

Isn't that like me saying "all Texans are yeller-bellied, firearm-wielding, hootin'-n-hollerin' rednecks"? Of course you're going to be able to point me to exceptions to that particular statement. I'd be disappointed if you couldn't.

[CrAz3D]

Of course that isn't true about Texans ... there are all the crazy liberals in the big cities that ruin the state and all of the people on welfare in the big cities, too.

[Sidoh]

Of course that isn't true about Texans ... there are all the crazy liberals in the big cities that ruin the state and all of the people on welfare in the big cities, too.

You're completely ignoring his point.  You responded to rhetoric, not the point he was trying to make.

[Ender]

ugh.. sorry i've been at robotics club since 9:30ish AM.. I just got back...

Uh, and update.... We talked this morning (i called her, because she signed off last night sending me a lot *a lot* of crying faces.. and this time it wasn't her saying "I'm sorry dale... I can't do this"... It was more like " im so confused" the I need you attitude) So mm, I called her, and she woke up fairly fast, I think she probably just got to sleep... (this was at 9ish a.m) and she was still kind of crying and sniffling and more gentle, then pushy if you know what I mean... So that's practically the whole update.... I think she realizes, that I *kind* of can live without her... and it hurst her soo much, and I think she can't live without me... and to be honest... I don't think I can live without her... I just... I fake it.


EDIT: Sorry if my splurr was unclear, or not to the point, I'm wicked tired...

EDIT 2: She just called me, after I text her, and she seems fine... So fuck? I'm confused.

You can live without her, it's just gonna be hard for a long time.

Also, she'll always be confusing.  My ex, who I still like and I'm quite sure she likes likes me but doesnt want to date now that she's back from Thailand, has had a dude hitting on her (around me, but she keeps inviting me places , not fun).  She doesnt really give this guy the "go away" cold shoulder ... sometimes seems flirty back, and he's paid for her drinks a couple of times (he's 18, she's 21, weird).  But she'll text me saying "He is hitting on me.  I'm not ok with that" or last night driving me home she said "That was like slow torture" (the hour drive back from El Paso with the dude, me, another friend, and her).
Weird?  Yes.  Confusing?  Hell yes.  Do I still really friggin' like this chick?  Yes .

Not all girls are confusing. It could be that you're just  attracted to the wrong pool of women.

You show me a woman that isn't confusing and I'll show you that "she" is actually a dude. 

For all women W not confusing there exists a penis P > 0 such that [tex]P \in W[/tex]...

Sounds like unconfusing women are continuously male!

[CrAz3D]

Uhm, basically...?

[rabbit]

You suck at math.

[Warrior]

...i called her...So mm, I called her...,

Mistake #1.

Yea, by calling her you've given her the power of knowing she can control you. Now that she knows you've taken the bait, she will stick the hook in your jaw.

It will be childs play now for her to control the situation. Contrary to what others may of said on these boards, all females are the same.

They are extremely manipulative creatures who use confusion as a tool to get what they want. You apply the same basic principals to all females, and you know all of their little tricks.

[Ender]

...i called her...So mm, I called her...,

Dale, all I have to say concerning your girlfriend is this: http://youtube.com/watch?v=dddAi8FF3F4

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Well, she signed on AIM today, and literally with one minute of signing on she IMed me.

Started off same old stuff in the beginning, but later I just got pissed with her repeating "I'm sorry.. no more chances" and shit, even though I never asked about another chance. I finally told her everything, the absolute truth, I told her she's making a mistake and mark my words she'll regret it (I told her that about 2 years and a half ago, [we were broke up for the 1st time back then] and then she came crawling back and saying I was right it was a mistake) So mm, I basically told her I don't give a fuck anymore I'm tired of feeling like shit all the time and apologizing for the mistakes I've made and I'm tired taking pills 24/7 just to fall asleep or to calm my anxiety and shit. So mm, I told her she'll never hear anything as far as sorrow or sadness from me to her again.

We'll see where this takes us, but she's stubborn usually so it might be a while.

[Ender]

If I were in your situation...

If this is the first time she's gone emo, I would probably let it slide.

If it's not the first time, I would consider being 100% honest with her and telling her that you feel like you're being controlled.

Just what I would do.

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[Sidoh]

Er, I hate the word Emo

No need to get all emo about it.

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Er, I hate the word Emo

No need to get all emo about it.

 

[Explicit]

Sorry to hear about the unfortunate news, but look at it this way, you're free from any obligation you had to her.

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[Explicit]

Sorry to hear about the unfortunate news, but look at it this way, you're free from any obligation you had to her.

Thanks.
But you know, I'm really not as happy as what you'd think..

I understand that, but like I said, I still believe this to be a case of infatuation more than anything else. I'm sure in the upcoming weeks, months, or even years, you'll realize that. That's not to say that I'm discounting your feelings for her, because I've been in your shoes before, and it sucks trying to piece together a broken heart. And even if you manage to, it's still not the same.

Best wishes, though.

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[Blaze]

Haha, this thread is like MySpace!

[Newby]

I know. I've gotten that twice over AIM.

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[Sidoh]

Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

Best post in the thread.

Haha, just kidding.  I'm not sure if the "Uh" was supposed to be an exclamation of uneasiness and regret, but way to go I think?

[Newby]

Way2go. Holding out ftw.

Don't think she won't pull this shit again, though. Keep that in mind. She caused you this much misery... is she really worth it?

[Sidoh]

Don't think she won't pull this shit again, though. Keep that in mind. She caused you this much misery... is she really worth it?

There's a simpler question who's answer reflects the one to your question: is she hot?

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[CrAz3D]

She's definitely worth it... Like I said... I've never felt more in love with someone than her...

How old are you?

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[Sidoh]

Ugh... I hate when people ask this, because then I tell them, and they're like "..You're too young to even know what love is."

17.. 18 this year.

Haha, I would be annoyed too.  To be honest, though, it's hard to take relationships between young people seriously in the average case (I'd say this probably includes me too).  I've been in your shoes before.  I was so sure that I was the exception and I was furious with people who didn't agree with me.  Thinking back, though, I was pretty naive.  Then again, the longest I dated someone in high school was a couple of months.

[CrAz3D]

I was gonna say "how could you be in love with more than one person being so young."  Not saying you dont love her, I love/loved Jacque ... I was young.  It ended though

[Newby]

And to be fair, there are plenty of people that end up married to their high school sweetheart for longer periods of time than people who marry in their mid twenties.

[Krazed]

Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

pics or ban

[Blaze]

And to be fair, there are plenty of people that end up married to their high school sweetheart for longer periods of time than people who marry in their mid twenties.

My parents, for example!  They started dating when they were 16, married at 18 and now they're 45 still together and happy.

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Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

Since this is a serious relationship for you, I hope you understand to keep sex separate from the relationship itself.

It's one thing to be genuinely in love with someone and have sex as a benefit of the relationship, but it's another to have the sex and mistake it for genuine love.

Just wanted to make sure you have those things distinct in your mind.

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[Explicit]

I only bring it up because you said you had sex and then got back together.

[Krazed]

Was it good?

[Ender]

Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

Pics or it didn't happen.

[rabbit]

Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

Pics or it didn't happen.

[CrAz3D]

Uh, I just slept with her, and we're back together.

Pics video or it didn't happen.

... just blur you out

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