Leaving Girlfriend

[iago]

Yes, in principle it's nice to separate sex, love, and rationalize things, but it often just doesn't work.

I agree - and the flip side is, sometimes it does work.

In the polyamorous setting, I think a<->b<->c could lead to a lot of jealousy, because it would be hard for the strength of those arrows to all be the same.  It's the kind of thing I think would be fun in the short term but would be really stressful in a long term relationship, where I would want to avoid being judged or trying battle for affection, etc.

Yeah, it seems like it'd be a pain in the ass. One partner is enough work. Unless it's like cats, where the big one will look after the small one for you, so you don't have to.

[Furious]

Open relationship to me just says that you're fuck buddies.

shrug

Personally, I don't know how people roll like that.  Pretty sure it would make me furious, no pun intended.

[MyndFyre]

Open relationship to me just says that you're fuck buddies.

I tend to agree.

Personally, I don't know how people roll like that.  Pretty sure it would make me furious, no pun intended.

oic wut i did thar

[CrAz3D]

Glad my drunk ramblings allowed yall to have at least a coherent convo as my shit wasnt coherent(ish).  lol.

[Sidoh]

Glad my drunk ramblings allowed yall to have at least a coherent convo as my shit wasnt coherent(ish).  lol.

Any updates? :O

[CrAz3D]

Signed lease thursday.  Will move this coming weekend.  I was in NM for my bday weekend (I think she felt slighted I didnt bring her like we originally planned).  When I got back she had made me a cake, got me some nice beer and beer glasses, and then she took me to dinner.  Fuck.  My.  Confused.  Head.

I guess that since I stood up for myself, she is realizing that the world doesnt revolve around her.  Hell, ever since I told her I am moving, she has been a lot nicer.  We've talked about still going out on dates and shit.  She asked if we'd just hang out - I told her that she knows how I feel about her (i.e., I still want to be with her), but that I'm moving so she can decide if she wants me.  If it works out it'd be awesome, but I can't do anything else but let her grow up.

Again, I'm the first person since high school to leave her.  Crazy.

[deadly7]

Signed lease thursday.  Will move this coming weekend.  I was in NM for my bday weekend (I think she felt slighted I didnt bring her like we originally planned).  When I got back she had made me a cake, got me some nice beer and beer glasses, and then she took me to dinner.  Fuck.  My.  Confused.  Head.

I guess that since I stood up for myself, she is realizing that the world doesnt revolve around her.  Hell, ever since I told her I am moving, she has been a lot nicer.  We've talked about still going out on dates and shit.  She asked if we'd just hang out - I told her that she knows how I feel about her (i.e., I still want to be with her), but that I'm moving so she can decide if she wants me.  If it works out it'd be awesome, but I can't do anything else but let her grow up.

Again, I'm the first person since high school to leave her.  Crazy.

It won't work out. Save yourself an agonizing year.

[iago]

Signed lease thursday.  Will move this coming weekend.  I was in NM for my bday weekend (I think she felt slighted I didnt bring her like we originally planned).  When I got back she had made me a cake, got me some nice beer and beer glasses, and then she took me to dinner.  Fuck.  My.  Confused.  Head.

I guess that since I stood up for myself, she is realizing that the world doesnt revolve around her.  Hell, ever since I told her I am moving, she has been a lot nicer.  We've talked about still going out on dates and shit.  She asked if we'd just hang out - I told her that she knows how I feel about her (i.e., I still want to be with her), but that I'm moving so she can decide if she wants me.  If it works out it'd be awesome, but I can't do anything else but let her grow up.

Again, I'm the first person since high school to leave her.  Crazy.

Sometimes, people need to be brought up short to realize they're assholes and change who they are.

Sometimes, people are just assholes.

It's up to you to decide.

[CrAz3D]

that's why I'm leaving.  I knew nothing would change if I didnt prompt it.  Whatevs.  It works it works, it dont it dont.

[dark_drake]

that's why I'm leaving.  I knew nothing would change if I didnt prompt it.  Whatevs.  It works it works, it dont it dont.

I'm not so sure it's that simple, eh?

[CrAz3D]

well, more goes into it, but if I kept everything the same, then nothing would change.  I dont know the details of what will happen, but, again, if it works it works.

[Rule]

Human nature sucks