Newby. .
Don't become a stereotype... And don't join a frat. It's basically paying for friends, to become their bitch, and for desperate, insecure women.
You have no idea what you are talking about.
Says the living, unexperienced, stereotype. The person who only years ago wasn't even sure he was "comfortable" with the idea his girlfriend initiated hand-holding.
A lot changes in four years time. In regards to the fraternity, you aren't paying for your friends...your dues go towards your social calendar. I don't think all schools have a Greek system like mine (for instance, it's frowned upon here to wear letter shirts, fraternity houses are about a three minute walk from dormitories, etc.), but here most of our dues goes to bands on the weekends. It's a small school and usually several fraternities will have a band Saturday afternoon or night after a football game, and everyone is allowed to come down not just people in fraternities.
Take for example this weekend, it's parents weekend. We're spending $200 on a full pig to roast at our tailgate, not to mention bottled water, sodas, chips, sides (potato salad, coleslaw, etc.) another $200 on wine and beer for parents, and somewhere around $1000 for a Motown band to play after the football game for four hours. Our dues are $1300, so one person is basically paying for this entire weekend. Factor in the amount you have to pay nationals (I don't know the exact figure, but I think it's around $10,000 for us), the house next to ours pays $24,000. Then you have money you have to pay to the school. Then you have money you have to pay for rush events during the week (chips, pizzas, beer for Monday Night Football or other things). Then house-related purchases (I'm the historian and just spent $300 on new picture frames). Speakers for the party bunker. Ritual materials, dry cleaning for robes, etc. Trust me, the money goes to much more than just paying for friends. At least at my campus, fraternities provide pretty much all of the weekend social entertainment on campus.
To my knowledge you weren't in a fraternity so you don't even know the half of it.