A topic that grows in popularity every day, it seems.
For the first ten to eleven years of my life, I always saw divorce as something that was completely alien and automatically signified incompetence in both the ex-husband and ex-wife, and something that would never-ever happen to my parents.
Well, I was wrong. ;o
It came up with a tone of routine discussion, which scares me. My parents just idley told me about it.. Shouldn't it be taken more seriously, or are they just trying to shield us from the many thoughts and worries that were to pass?
I thought I know, but I guess I don't. I'm sixteen, never been married, never had any children, and going through periods where my opinions are not permanent.
I'd seen it coming for a while, but yet it came as a lot more unsettling than I had expected it to be. Although I truly hate my dad, and going through this divorce will essentially take him partially out of my life, knowing that my parents - the same parents who I thought loved each other eternally - are now splitting up does not make me proud.
Could just be me, but I highly disagree with divorce.
I'm not saying to outlaw it or anything, but.. If you don't see yourself meshing perfectly with the person you're going to marry, please wait it out. It will be worth it in the end. Your children won't be deprived of a parent and you'll be able to hold a level of respect for yourself that says, " Hey, of the all the people that get married, 50% get divorces, and I was able to get through it without resorting to separation. "
Sure, things pop up that may warrant a divorce.. But I think if you really think about why you get married and who you're going to marry, the rate of divorces will drop. If you're a player, go ahead and fuck the living daylight out of someone, but don't marry. Marriage is something that will bind two people's love together for the rest of their lives, in theory. But now there's a divorce option which serves as the 'cancel button'. Why get married then? For the experience?
Which brings up another topic: Gay marriage. Don't support it. I guess marriage seems to be derived from some sort of tradition, and as the tradition goes a male marries a female. Am I against homosexuality? Partially, but that has nothing to do with it. I might be contradicting myself when I say that : Marriage is something that binds two people's love together for eternity, and then: Gay people can't be married. I'm sure two chicks or two dudes could love each other a lot. But keep it private, as the majority of the public won't accept it yet. The male and female were meant for each other, and the only, but very powerful evidence, is sex. Life is born through the male and female, not male and male or female through female.
But technology is growing, and artificial insemination is already a growing science. Who knows what conclusions can be drawn when technology is a factor?
I had to let it out somewhere, so thanks to all who will listen to another teenager's feelings.
