I think things are about to go sour(er sorta)

[CrAz3D]

Jacque = my g/f for ALMOST 8 months

few weeks ago I go camping with friends (& meet new friends) jacque couldnt go cuz she had to work (still not really over me going to Reno).
 
 I get back & we all hang out with my group of friends + the new friends from campout.  she thinkgs the 2 new girls are all over me (wtf?)
 
 so now we're planning backpack trip she can go on but is saying she might not be able to then guilts me by saying "go have fun with your 2 new girl friends).
 
 today I posted a blog about postng 6 weird habbits plus tagging 6 more ppl to answer this myspace survery thing.  I said I wouldnt list the ppl who I got it from (ted, who already listed jacque)....so i listed 4 old friends that id like to get to knpw better + the 2 new ones so i could get to know them better.
 
 jacque flipps getting all mad.  "are allyson & kelly that more inportant than me?"

@ campout me & allyson (somehow) devised an "S" game (saying words that start with s, emphasizing the ssss sound)
 
 we've continued this on face book
 (this is all on my facebook wall thing, too)
 Jacque:Aw, how cute, you guys have such fun little jokes...
 Tyler: hi babe
 Jacque: hi....
 Jacque (next day):Hey I saw your best friend in the dorms today...
 Tyler: who?
 Jacque:Who do you think?

What do you all suggest I do, I don't really like her being mad at me always when I have girl (SPACE) friends.  I just sent her a message asking a few things

   outu of curiosity, why do you have like such a
problem with me having other friends that are
girls?
do you want me to not talk to my chick friends?
I'm just wondering so I know

so yeah...........un-fun stuff

[Sidoh]

Kindly tell her that her jealousy is unjustified; make it explicit that she has no reason to be jealous.

[MyndFyre]

Unless they're hot and really are all over you.  Take shallow girls over needy ones any day. 

j/k

[CrAz3D]

I've told her again & again that there is nothing to worry about...she doesnt seem to trust me, or something.


Also, MyndFyre, they're cute, not really hot at all, a different level of attractiveness.
Anyway, there were not all over me (p.s., she said the same about an old friend we ran into at a comedy club a week ago)...the just said hi when we walked up to the group

[Sidoh]

Tell her you find her distrust upsetting and that you fail to see any reason behind her irrational persuits (in nicer words, of course).

[CrAz3D]

she says she feels threatened by these other girls...i told her she shouldnt be...hmm

our band friends have suggested to her tha we break up.  She's been sorta nutty since the Reno trip I went on & she didnt.

[TeHFoOoL]

Girls, girls, girls..

Now would be a good time to do something good for her; a little romance. Even though you know you're faithful, show it. Set up some sexy dinner or something. Throw on some shitty ass drauma on ABC and cuddle.

Just show her she's wrong.

[dark_drake]

My opinion is to just break up.  It's no use trying to fix a relationship where one party is constantly paranoid of what the other person is doing.  In my opinion, relationships are supposed to built upon trust, but if she doesn't trust you....

Just my 2 cents; I don't pretend to be an expert on relationships.

[Sidoh]

My opinion is to just break up.  It's no use trying to fix a relationship where one party is constantly paranoid of what the other person is doing.  In my opinion, relationships are supposed to built upon trust, but if she doesn't trust you....

Pure, constructive genius.

Just my 2 cents; I don't pretend to be an expert on relationships.

Nonsense.  You're the next Dr. Phil.  Except you won't be bald.

[deadly7]

Nonsense.  You're the next Dr. Phil.  Except you won't be bald.

Just a stab in the dark, but I'm hoping he won't be a fag, along with not being bald.

[Newby]

My opinion is to just break up.  It's no use trying to fix a relationship where one party is constantly paranoid of what the other person is doing.  In my opinion, relationships are supposed to built upon trust, but if she doesn't trust you....

Just my 2 cents; I don't pretend to be an expert on relationships.

Haha, wow. That was the smartest post to ever come across the forums. Well, maybe at terms of helping out relationships anyway.

You don't pretend to be. It would seem you are.

[Sidoh]

Just a stab in the dark, but I'm hoping he won't be a fag, along with not being bald.

No, he's definitely not gay.

Haha, wow. That was the smartest post to ever come across the forums. Well, maybe at terms of helping out relationships anyway.

You don't pretend to be. It would seem you are.

Exactly.  Dr. Phil, I'm telling you.  dark_drake, if you don't remember my posts in the introductions forums, is a long time friend.  He is one of the most logical and concise people I know, and always has been.  dark_drake wins.

[rabbit]

My opinion is to just break up.  It's no use trying to fix a relationship where one party is constantly paranoid of what the other person is doing.  In my opinion, relationships are supposed to built upon trust, but if she doesn't trust you....

Just my 2 cents; I don't pretend to be an expert on relationships.

I'm paranoid because I have a medical condition, not because of trust issues.  Does that mean I should never have a relationship?

[Sidoh]

I'm paranoid because I have a medical condition, not because of trust issues.  Does that mean I should never have a relationship?

Is your condition nullified by medication or treatment?  Do you express your paranoia or is it just a bothersome inward feeling?

All in all, this situation presents a problem because CrAz3D is obviously troubled by his girlfriend's paranoia.  That does not mean that every other individual on this planet is deeply concerned with parania present in their significant other.

[rabbit]

It's severe enough to bug the hell out of me, but not severe enough for a shrink to give me drugs.

[Sidoh]

It's severe enough to bug the hell out of me, but not severe enough for a shrink to give me drugs.

From what I gather, you're either able to supress expressing those feelings.  If not that, you have a girlfriend who responds with sympathy or apathy.

[rabbit]

I can supress SHOWING them, supressing the actual feelings isn't possible.

[Sidoh]

I can supress SHOWING them, supressing the actual feelings isn't possible.

Yes it is.  You can overcome instinctive feelings with logic and reason.

[CrAz3D]

Thursday was a new story 
I ask her what she's doing for the evening, she says going to stampede @ 10pm(night club in near by city), I say k.
I get asked to go to night club (which acts usu. end at 10pm).  I call her to see if she wants to go.  She says they aren't going to the club & she doesnt really want to go to El Paso. I say ok, see you tomorrow I guess, she says "maybe, for once this week"
I say ok bye...she's way easy to get mad at me.

OOOH!
& then last night @ bonfire.  once she randomly went off and sat against my truck & i went & talked w/her, stuff seemed good.
later we were kissing by my truck before she got her stuff out (I was leaving, she wanted to stay).  after 10min of that we walked back to fire to get myf riend so we could leave.  she mentions kelly (kelly & allyson are the chicks from a campout that she thinks i'm obsessed with now).   so like RIGHT before I left she managed to get all mad at me again just by thinkin about kelly....so I leave not really caring.

This is getting old

[rabbit]

I can supress SHOWING them, supressing the actual feelings isn't possible.

Yes it is.  You can overcome instinctive feelings with logic and reason.

Says the one who doesn't have it.  Please be quiet now.

[dark_drake]

My opinion is to just break up.  It's no use trying to fix a relationship where one party is constantly paranoid of what the other person is doing.  In my opinion, relationships are supposed to built upon trust, but if she doesn't trust you....

Just my 2 cents; I don't pretend to be an expert on relationships.

I'm paranoid because I have a medical condition, not because of trust issues.  Does that mean I should never have a relationship?

Are you constantly paranoid that your gf (when you're in a relationship) is cheating on you?

[Sidoh]

Says the one who doesn't have it.  Please be quiet now.

What don't I have?  Logic or reason?  You're funny ...

Why should I be quiet?  It's the truth.  If someone does something to make me angry, I stop and ask myself why I am angry at them.  If I am unable to find a valid reason, I am no longer angry with them.

[rabbit]

Separation anxiety and paranoia aren't anger.  I don't think you and I were talking about the same thing.

[Sidoh]

Separation anxiety and paranoia aren't anger.  I don't think you and I were talking about the same thing.

Neither do I.  I was giving an example.  Given the context of the post, I had hoped you would be able to figure that out without explanation.

I misread your original post, thinking you said how it was impossible to supress feelings in any case.  Sorry.

[CrAz3D]

Last night was interesting...

Was going to head over to Tony & Axel's party (friends) at some point but ended up going walking with kelly, allyson (people jacque is threatened by),ted, joel, becca, melissa (I dont know melissa).  We go back to kelly & allyson's around 1115pm & right as i got there jacque text me saying "I thought you were coming to ton'ys" (she told me she had to work 530-12).
I go over to tony's & hang for 30min, when I leave I ask again if she wants to go hiking (this morning),she says "not really, but have fun with kelly".  i get sorta fed up & say bye & leave.

I get txt later saying "dot be upset, i just cant stand hearing about them all the time. i know you didnt say anything but like i dont know".  I ended up telling her just to not be mad at me about stuff like that she says she isnt mad, at all....WTF.
I go to sleep, she texts 4am asking if its cool with me if she stays the night at tony & axel's...she's probably too drunk to get home by that point.

side note: I had fun hiking this morning tih ted, kelly, allsyon, steve sage meg (I dont know the last 3)


erggggh

[CrAz3D]

Last 2 days have been uber unfun.

Recap....
Reno: she's jealous.  gets over it (some) after a while
City of Rocks Campout: I meet a few new girls, she's jealous.


Now:
Jacque mentions her drum majr auditions + a rehearsal &  for footbal scrimage 1 week ago, thats about all she said about it.  day before it is supposed to happen (1 week after i've been invited to birthday party) she says "I thought you were going to come support me at something i wanted to do."  I dont know how id be supporting her other than just by being in the band and playing, she didnt even really ask me to go (or tell me ANYTHING at all about it)

Now she's all "you think kelly is more attractive, you have more in common, she gets your attention easier" "you stopped hanging out with band ppl & me"
I dont know how many times i dont think kelly is more  attractive or any of that.
I hang with band ppol less because Im hanging with my good friends that i've known forever that I sorta stopped hanging with...I've ever had the problem of 2 groups of friends before.  she, also, ends up hanging out with dominos pizza ppl she works with alot...i dont want to hang out with those losers...dont know why she does
+ i dont see jacque as much because she's at work most nights (that i'd go out, I always go home early cuz of school) or sometimes working on school stuff (because she is near flunking out some classes)




this is all very fustrating.  i dont know what to do to make her not jealous.  ive said everything i can think of short of proposing.
this is ridiculous`

[Newby]

Tell her if she's really that concerned to let go and move on. Hell, if she bugged the shit out of me like that like she is you, I'd totally dump her. If she couldn't trust me, I wouldn't wanna be with her.

[CrAz3D]

Tell her if she's really that concerned to let go and move on. Hell, if she bugged the shit out of me like that like she is you, I'd totally dump her. If she couldn't trust me, I wouldn't wanna be with her.

it might end up ending, sometime.
if its like this now....i dont want to be nagged & "on a lease" married forever.



out of curiosity, think I should turn the jealousy thing back around on her so she knows what she is doing & how unreasonable it is?

e.g.:  Last night when I went to party to see her she was on couch leaning up against dude she was WAY into last summer, with her arm around him.

[Newby]

She'll just try and turn it around on you, and she'll use that to her advantage to make you suffer, probably by being even more "outgoing". Don't even bother telling her. Tell her you trust her, and if she *is* fooling around and has some morals (not that you have any while fooling around in a serious relationship) she'll feel really bad about lying to you. Also tell her you wish she'd trust you.

But seriously, move on.

[CrAz3D]

i dont know how many times i've said exactly that (i trust her, i hope you trust me    thing)...she says she does.

i figure as much that me being "jealous" might just blow up in my face
idont want it to end, eh,i just dont know anymore

[Newby]

Sometimes things aren't meant to work out. Why the hell do you think I'm still single?

(Not because I'm pessimistic, shy, anti-social, nerdy, etc... because things just don't work out. )

[CrAz3D]

Some times things aren't meant to work out. Why the hell do you think I'm still single?

(Not because I'm pessimistic, shy, etc... because things just don't work out. )

eh,yeah,true.
I just should get a dog/.....i think thats the best revelation ive ever had.  dogs may not be the most fun at any given time, but when you add all of the time up together....dogs way win

[Newby]

They're massively cheaper to maintain, too!

[rabbit]

Punch her in the ovaries.

Well, don't.  Tell her you need a break, and if she asks why, say "You're stressing me out with all of your jealous bitching."