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Re: I need some help, please read.
« Reply #15 on: December 24, 2006, 09:34:08 am »
Anxiety disorders suck, big time.  What's really sucky about her is that she's got depression and some anxiety disorder, which means she'll usually want you real bad when she's depressed, and, well, not so much when she's happy.

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« Reply #16 on: December 24, 2006, 02:34:27 pm »
Dear Scr33n0r,
   Boy, I kind of know how you feel, I have a girlfriend now, She was totally depressed when I met her and I was JUST getting out of the depression stage... It was extremely hard on me not to think of suicide..etc. She was into the black, cutting herself and all of that I was just getting out of all of that (yet still cutting myself)... She ended up breaking up with me a little after, and our conversation ended with me saying "You're making a big mistake." Two months later, we started talking again, and I asked her to the movies, we made out..etc she said "I understand what you said, you were right I was making a big mistake." She cheated on her boyfriend because she missed me so much, Well I asked her out two days after her breaking up with him. And we went out and we've been happy ever since (8 months and going.) Now we are both far out of the death music, black clothes and death thought stage and all of that. It's going really good.

    My advice to you is to say Yes, and TRY really TRY to stay happy around her, yes, you may have to lie to her...but as long as she sees you being happy, and how much you care for her, she'll become happy, and she'll support you when you're in need too. It's like you both support each other, and that is how a relationship should be.

    If you happen to say No to her, try to do it in person so she she doesn't do something stupid (if you say "No" on the phone she may say "This life isn't worth living" and kill herself... :-/") If you say it when you see her she'll probably have more time to calm down.

I know this story wasn't exactly like yours, and I've left stuff out but this is what I did and we're perfect now.

Good Luck Scr33n0r,
       Best Wishes.
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EDIT: Ah, This is what I get for not reading all the posts, He already said yes. haha.  ;D  :-\
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« Reply #17 on: December 24, 2006, 03:14:33 pm »
Thanks for the help guys. See, the problem is mainly her BPD (borderline personality disorder), when she gets in one of those raging moods according to our therapists (we have the same ones), is it'll only stop if I'm around to calm her down, or she does something to depress her enough to where she just shuts down.

My anxiety disorder is a little different, and normally when I get set off I have some control over it. There's been the rare occasion though where I will cut, though, and have tried to kill myself once. Which was why I really needed to talk about this somewhere where I'm fairly anonymous, but where there's people I feel I can trust.

I really do appreciate the replies. Thanks again. :)

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Re: I need some help, please read.
« Reply #18 on: December 24, 2006, 03:17:40 pm »
Np. ^.^

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« Reply #19 on: December 24, 2006, 03:21:09 pm »
Thanks for the help guys. See, the problem is mainly her BPD (borderline personality disorder), when she gets in one of those raging moods according to our therapists (we have the same ones), is it'll only stop if I'm around to calm her down, or she does something to depress her enough to where she just shuts down.

My anxiety disorder is a little different, and normally when I get set off I have some control over it. There's been the rare occasion though where I will cut, though, and have tried to kill myself once. Which was why I really needed to talk about this somewhere where I'm fairly anonymous, but where there's people I feel I can trust.

I really do appreciate the replies. Thanks again. :)

goodluck with whatever happens senor

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« Reply #20 on: December 24, 2006, 03:37:34 pm »
Well, now I know a bit more about you  :-X
Either way, good luck with this. Next time she tries it you can just ignore it since when she calms down she will want you back anyways  :P

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« Reply #21 on: December 24, 2006, 04:45:35 pm »
She cuts, drop her like a bad habit.
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« Reply #22 on: December 24, 2006, 05:05:05 pm »
*ahem*

Getting dumped five times is not only hurting your g status, it's showing the true future of the relationship. If a relationship is only about sex then it's not something you should be wasting you time with.

Find a relationship with someone who understands you, makes you laugh, you can talk to, AND sex. Thats the keeper.

Finally, remember that you're both in very vulnerable states right now and all this drama of breaking up and getting back together on false emotions isn't good for any of you.
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« Reply #23 on: December 24, 2006, 06:04:38 pm »
She cuts, drop her like a bad habit.

People who have a self-mutilating partner are afraid to break up with them out of fear of them hurting themselves severely... like suicide.
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Re: I need some help, please read.
« Reply #24 on: December 24, 2006, 07:18:34 pm »
*ahem*

Getting dumped five times is not only hurting your g status, it's showing the true future of the relationship. If a relationship is only about sex then it's not something you should be wasting you time with.

Find a relationship with someone who understands you, makes you laugh, you can talk to, AND sex. Thats the keeper.

Finally, remember that you're both in very vulnerable states right now and all this drama of breaking up and getting back together on false emotions isn't good for any of you.


That'd be her. :P

She doesn't cut as often since we met apparently, now it's normally when her parents flip out on her. So I really don't know what to do.. Guess I'll just see how it pans out this time. :-\

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« Reply #25 on: December 25, 2006, 01:07:08 pm »
Well if that's the case then you need to let her know you want to help her with her cutting problem.

You two can help each other if you're that committed to it.

If you can make it work with her, despite her breaking up with you then do it by all means. It would help you both to try to maintain a relationship. Just make sure it doesn't go to the point where it's unhealthy for the both of you.
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« Reply #26 on: December 25, 2006, 07:02:48 pm »
lol, Warrior and his G status theory.

I must say I'm a strong believer!

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« Reply #27 on: December 25, 2006, 07:20:30 pm »
Hrmkay. My turn!

Honestly, I understand you have your anxiety disorder, and whatever other problems. I suffered from post dramatic stress over the summer, I know how horrible it feels and how it is trying to get over it. However, this girl, isn't helping you in anyway shape or form. I'm not saying shes a bad person, at all. But, as of right now she's only making things worse. The cutting? She needs to get the fuck over it, if you're willing to stay with someone that cuts, you've got some serious problems. I've gone through that with ex-girlfriends, if they're not willing to stop hurting themselves for you, then they're not worth it. Now, sit down and talk to her, tell her she has one chance. You can have a good relationship, be together, and be happy. Or she can be a two-year-old moron and break up with you, and that will be the complete end of you two.
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« Reply #28 on: December 25, 2006, 07:29:33 pm »
lol, Warrior and his G status theory.

I must say I'm a strong believer!

I got newby a date (sort of), I'm a miracle worker.
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« Reply #29 on: December 25, 2006, 07:42:55 pm »
Take it from someone who was in a similar relationship (me!), don't go back out with her. Try to limit contact with her as much as possible. My exgirlfriend is still really attached to me and has gone from begging me to go back out with her to begging me to be friends with her. I want nothing to do with the girl because I think she is just insane, and a large part of that is due to her being dependent I guess. It sucks, and I don't want you to have to go through it. Try to end it anyway you can. (legally I mean)

And, damn, does sex complicate things or what? Just don't do what I did and stay w/ her for it. Not only does it make things harder on her and harder when you're ready to finally end it, but for some reason other girls don't like it. (This girl I really want to hook up with knows what I did and thinks I'm just a huge asshole for it. Oh well, her loss.)

Oh, and plus you don't want a girl who cuts herself. You just don't.
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