The Wierdest Thing You Will Ever Hear Me Ask

[trust]

Its simple. He wanted some pussy. He texted you some sweet nothings and told you what you wanted to hear. Once he got what he wanted he was done.

I totally agree with this too. I think sex should be something that you get out of the way early on because it just creates problems and lies. If anyone remembers when my ex stole those earrings, I was pretty much completely through with her and didn't see her as good enough for me or worth my time. However, I still liked her some and I also knew that she would eventually give it up. She did. Afterwards, there was really no more reason to continue. It lasted maybe a couple more months or so, but I realized that sex really wasn't worth being unhappy with her.

It's pretty bad that guys think this way (Putting up a certain front to get laid) but really, it's instinctive I think. Any male of a species duty is to have sex with as many females as possible because it maximizes the chances of reproducing. If you have sex at the beginning of the relationship then the male has nothing really to go for so you can see if he'll just move on or if he'll stick around. If he sticks around then I think it'll be a good relationship.

[CrAz3D]

hmm..............................................

I regard sex more highly than that.  I have a more intimate feeling towards it.
but to each his own

[Ender]

Words are cheap. Don't put all your faith in them unless you have reason to believe that the person is completely honest. Now, that doesn't mean you can't trust the person with anything if you don't know whether he or she is completely honest. It just means you can't trust him or her with certain things, which is different than just trust), and love is one of those things. There's a difference between trust and complete trust. There are people in my life who have my complete trust and there are others who only have partial trust from me.

Oh, and force him to tell you. Not physically of course, but ask him first, innocuously, and if he refuses to give an answer, tell him how much he hurt you emotionally and guilt-trip him into giving you an answer. If he ends up not giving any answer, then you should maybe consider that he just wanted the sex.

I think you should also reexamine your own reasons for falling in love with him, not just his reasons for falling in and out of love with you.

By the way, I go for friendship before dating. But I'm 0 for 3 so either my good looks are scaring them away or I must not know wtf I'm doing...

[trust]

hmm..............................................

I regard sex more highly than that.  I have a more intimate feeling towards it.
but to each his own

Maybe it's just because I couldn't stand the girl, I don't know. I didn't have any intimate feeling towards it at all, ever.

Oh, and force him to tell you. Not physically of course, but ask him first, innocuously, and if he refuses to give an answer, tell him how much he hurt you emotionally and guilt-trip him into giving you an answer. If he ends up not giving any answer, then you should maybe consider that he just wanted the sex.

No, don't listen to this. It will take you from being able to be friends still to not being on speaking terms, unless he has a really good reason which he probably doesn't - other than "love fades."

[iago]

hmm..............................................

I regard sex more highly than that.  I have a more intimate feeling towards it.
but to each his own

That's a nice thought, but I'm reasonably sure that that feeling is artificial, people feel it because we know we're supposed to.

Of course, I'm a little cynical..

[ZeroX]

Yeah iam sorry if that came out kinda unsenestive to you Kal. I love you and you know this. But thats how I saw the situation you explained coming down too. He was horny and yeah he was going to do what ever he could to get what he wanted and disregard your feelings. 

[CrAz3D]

hmm..............................................

I regard sex more highly than that.  I have a more intimate feeling towards it.
but to each his own

That's a nice thought, but I'm reasonably sure that that feeling is artificial, people feel it because we know we're supposed to.

Of course, I'm a little cynical..

it might be a culturally instilled emotion, but its still pretty real to me.
...ALTHOUGH, it might just be that I feel this way because it was sorta used against me(?) & I'm jealous(ish) re:it...all very possible.

[Joe]

I love you and you know this.

Aww!! But..

* Joe[x86] embraces Kaleeko. "Mine!"

Back off!

But thats how I saw the situation you explained coming down too. He was horny and yeah he was going to do what ever he could to get what he wanted and disregard your feelings. 

Damn he was horny for a long time.

[d&q]

I love you and you know this.

Aww!! But..

* Joe[x86] embraces Kaleeko. "Mine!"

Back off!

You are way too damn desperate.

[Newby]

I love you and you know this.

Aww!! But..

* Joe[x86] embraces Kaleeko. "Mine!"

Back off!

You are way too damn desperate.

Signed.

[Sidoh]

Aww!! But..

* Joe[x86] embraces Kaleeko. "Mine!"

Back off!

You are a giant bag of douche.


iago, I totally agree with you.  I don't think you're cynical; I think you're brutally honest!

[Explicit]

It's simple... things in and of nature can't help being what they are.

[Furious]

Its simple. He wanted some pussy. He texted you some sweet nothings and told you what you wanted to hear. Once he got what he wanted he was done.

I totally agree with this too. I think sex should be something that you get out of the way early on because it just creates problems and lies. If anyone remembers when my ex stole those earrings, I was pretty much completely through with her and didn't see her as good enough for me or worth my time. However, I still liked her some and I also knew that she would eventually give it up. She did. Afterwards, there was really no more reason to continue. It lasted maybe a couple more months or so, but I realized that sex really wasn't worth being unhappy with her.

It's pretty bad that guys think this way (Putting up a certain front to get laid) but really, it's instinctive I think. Any male of a species duty is to have sex with as many females as possible because it maximizes the chances of reproducing. If you have sex at the beginning of the relationship then the male has nothing really to go for so you can see if he'll just move on or if he'll stick around. If he sticks around then I think it'll be a good relationship.

Sad but true.  We are naturally uber horny.

[iago]

It's simple... things in and of nature can't help being what they are.

That, I disagree with.

I think that human nature is rather bad, by default. Humans tend to be greedy, selfish, and, like somebody said above, human males want to have sex with everything. That's how nature made us, because those are survival characteristics.

But in the modern world, we're told that those are bad attributes. So we grow up ignoring our nature and believing in things like "love" and "marriage" to the point where people think those are natural and the way it's meant to be.

Of course, tons of men cheat, and tons of marriages fall apart. That's human nature asserting itself. But a lot of them stay together, which shows that "things in and of nature CAN help being what they are".

[Armin]

So, I'd probably take Kaleeko's lack of responses as a hint.