All of this generalizing about males has really started to vex me. Have any of you postulated that these "general male characteristics" are attributes of you, and you alone?
Joe, I do not need to prove I am right no matter what, and I am not fucked up. Furious, I am not intrinsically "uber horny". Super X and Crazed, I do not understand how you can attest that boys and people in general are fucked up. These generalizations are unwarranted and ineffectual. Trust, not all guys need to put up a front to get laid, and it is definitely not proven to be instinctive. We are not wild animals, not even in the heat of passion. Unless you hold some degree in Sociology or something of that nature, how can you possibly assert that males are only driven by their dick? Frankly, I do not believe anyone here (including me) know the true idiosyncrasies of human nature, because for every example given, I can conjure numerous counterexamples.
Regardless, none of this seems to actually remedy the situation. Blaming her breakup on male nature is a clichéd and persistent tactic used to cheer a disconsolate girl, but I have noticed that it does not seem to work, it only projects you as an understanding male who empathizes with her frustration of men. Maybe instead of trying to subconsciously win yourself into her favor (*cough* Joe, ZeroX), you might actually give her advice that matters? However, the fault is not all yours. Kaleeko loaded the question by assuming that all boys were fucked up in the first place. I sympathize with her situation, but blaming it on boys is not going to ameliorate the predicament, and might only make it worse. Truthfully, to provide actual advice, everyone here should know much more about David(the ex-boyfriend) and the relationship as a whole. Exactly how long were they dating? How long after they started dating did they wait to have sex? Would he usually say things such as "I love you" unprovoked, or would he say it because she had or maybe just to win her consideration? What other evidence are there of him genuinely loving her? When they talked about their distant futures, was he the one who brought it up, or was it her? If he did, did he seem sincerely excited? There are so many questions to be asked if we want to effectively help the situation, and itt would be preferable if we actually knew David/Kaleeko, since it would answer most, if not all, these essential questions. That is the predominant reason why asking for help over the internet is generally a bad idea. It is not just because everyone here is an immature boy-nerd, or whatever explanation is generally flaunted. Many people here seem to be in deep, committed relationships (MyndFyre, unTactical, possibly Hitmen???), so that our maturity (or lack thereof), is obviously not the problem. Kaleeko probably understands this, and that could be why there has not been a response as of late.